As Valentine’s Day approaches, I am thinking about love, what it is and what it is not. “Approximately 150 million Valentine’s Day cards are exchanged annually, making Valentine’s Day the second most popular card-sending holiday after Christmas.” Although this holiday was not even meant to be about romantic love, it has evolved that way, and a great many single people once more find themselves suffering through a holiday they believe identifies some part of their lives, as defined by Hallmark. I do not object to a sincerely selected and sent card or present, but what the problem is, is that we keep allowing business and profit to define for us what the holidays mean, what our lives should be like, or whether we are even happy or not.
Aleta Edwards, Psy.D.
I am a psychotherapist in private practice, with a strong interest in shame and perfectionism. I will periodically post my thoughts about these topics and other observations relating to emotional health.